I’ll be taking off for vacation, and I have let Henry’s family know when I’ll be gone. My only concern is that he gets to take a shower, I have filled his freezer with yummy food, I have talked to his family and friends to make sure that he’s being checked in on. And today I left a message for his daughter in law to make sure that someone is giving him a shower every week while I’m gone. I have been taking care of him for 16 years, he is family to me, and I care.
Her response was this
"You don’t know what we do for him, you should check in with us. Jim gives him a shower or a bath every two weeks. You are pissing me off to assume that we are not going to be taking care of him while you’re gone, and next time instead of leaving me a message you should talk to me face to face."
Well the reason (obviously) why I left a message is because I knew that this would be the response. They neglect to make sure his basic needs like showering often are met, and then they get pissed off when I tell them to make sure that they take care of him.
I had to make him a doctors appointment and call Cheryl and tell her he needed a ride. I asked if Jim could do it or if I had to find somebody else, she asked why, I told her he had diarrhea every day for a month. (surprised that all I heard was crickets? It was one of the longest pauses I had heard in a long time) She said that Jim Could take him. Jim was there every week, you can't tell me that loving attentive family doesn't know when there's a medical problem, and you can't be around him for more than about twenty minutes without knowing about his bowel movements.
They also didn't know that the chore worker that they hired through the service had been stealing his meds, or that all the other one did was sit around and eat his food. I stopped cleaning when they hired the service, the girl who stole the meds was fired as soon as I found out that she stole from him, the guy that ate the food didn't clean at all, after a month the inside of the toilet was black. They fired him too, but if I hadn't been around to check and make sure everything was good, they would never had known.
By the time I pay for my gas to drive there and take care of him for 3 hours, I'm only making about $5 an hour. I obviously don't do it for the money. They'll probably try to fire me, they can't and they aren’t going to scare me away.
I really want to put lots of information about his family here, so that when people are searching for them they will find out how shitty they treat him. She is sort of somebody in town, people know who she is. I don't want it to come back on me, so I won't, but I sure would like too.